Are you being manipulated by your partner?

Suppose a person of the opposite sex flirts with your partner at the mall, who jokingly reciprocates the flirty advances. When confronted, your partner tells you it was just healthy flirting. On another day at the movie theater, when a person of the opposite sex flirts with you, you too engage in healthy flirting. What will your partner say?

He/she won't say anything. After all, he/she does it too!

Maybe your partner won't say anything right now but may discuss it later on some other day.

Your partner will frown at you and ask you never to do it again.

You and your partner have opposite choices in the type of movies that you like to watch. Which movies do you generally end up watching?

Sometimes the type of movies that your partner likes, sometimes the ones that you like.

You both try to balance it out but you feel that your partner talks you into watching movies that he/she likes.

Somehow you only end up watching the movies that your partner likes.

You and your partner are planning a vacation together. Where are you likely to go?

A place that you and your partner both like.

A place that is a compromise between yours and your partner's choice.

A place that your partner likes.

Your partner is having trouble finding a new job and asks you if you can lend him/her some money. When and how do you think your partner would pay you back?

Money is not an issue in your relationship.

Your partner would pay you back in cash or kind, as soon as he/she finds a job.

You don't think your partner will pay you back at all. He/she has borrowed money in the past and you've never got it back.

Your partner expects you to share all your secrets. Does he/she do the same?

Yes. In fact, you know all your partner's friends, colleagues and exes.

Yes, your partner generally shares his/her secrets but you are not sure that you know them all.

Your partner never seems to share his/her secrets.

Do you catch your partner lying to you often?

No.

Sometimes, but your partner tells you that they are all white lies.

Yes, but your partner always manages to convince you that the lies were for your own good.

Your partner spends a lot of time hanging out with his/her friends. When your partner comes back home, does he/she give vague answers when you ask questions regarding his/her whereabouts?

Not at all. Your partner generally answers all your questions in detail.

Your partner usually tells you everything but it seems that he/she is deliberately avoiding answering some specific questions.

Yes, your partner seems very vague while answering such questions.

How often do you feel that your partner fights and argues with you unnecessarily or because of no fault of your own?

Very rarely. You and your partner are both mature.

You do face the brunt of arguments with your partner once in a while.

Your partner blames you for everything and fights way too often.

Have you ever caught your partner cheating on you? If yes, how did you deal with it?

No, never.

Your partner has not cheated on you, but you have caught him/her lying about his/her relationship with a person of the opposite sex in the past. You both have moved past that.

Yes. Your partner has cheated on you but you forgave him/her for the sake of your relationship.

Are you being manipulated by your partner?

Your partner is not manipulative.

You both seem to be mature and understanding partners who wish the best for each other.

You are not being manipulated by your partner but he/she does seem to have the upper hand.

Your partner may not be explicitly manipulating you. However he/she does manage to have his/her way in the relationship. It is definitely not 50-50 when it comes to making fair decisions in your relationship.

You are being manipulated by your partner.

Your partner has lied to you in the past and it seems that you are facing the brunt of a controlling and manipulative partner.

Your partner's manipulation is temperamental.

It is difficult to make a general statement that your partner is manipulating you. Depending on the mood and the situation, your partner's manipulation changes.

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